the wisdom left behind
A collection of vignettes about how each meeting and separation with four beloved friends impressed my soul with unforgettable wisdom.
Coming Soon
Stay tuned for Cathy’s upcoming book as she describes the hardships and trials of being separated from her son during the war in Afganistan and Iraq.


Cathy Tolk lives in Avon Connecticut with her husband of thirty seven years Andrew. Together they raised 4 children, all boys. She wanted to consciously live her life and knew a written plan was important to achieve her goals, so 36 years ago she wrote her personal mission statement. She stands behind these words today as much as the day she wrote them. “No matter how long or short my encounter is with anyone, when we part, we will both be better people for having met.” She repeats it every night before she goes to bed and every morning when she wakes.

She’s quick to remind everyone her life has had all the ups and downs any full life has. And in the face of her personal unforeseen circumstance of being diagnosed with MS in 1995 she once again reflected on what was really important in her life.

Cathy Tolk Portrait

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