This is harder to do than it sounds. When setting goals, it is imperative to know exactly what you want in order to know when you have arrived. This is a very important step... BEFORE you start the journey. Without it, this will be an impossible task. Goals require clear vision, determination and fortitude on the part of the person setting them. Pay close attention; there is wisdom to be learned
every step of the way. Arriving at the destination is only one piece of this puzzle.
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Are there only a certain amount of tears that can be shed before the well dries up? First of all, tears are not all the same. They result from a full range of emotions: happy, sad, and a plethora of reasons in between. And if that’s not confusing enough, at times it’s hard to know what precipitated this current waterfall. The reason remains a mystery. Tears for all reasons cleanse the soul. They are never a sign of weakness, in fact they are a sign of true strength.
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Learn to thrive, not just survive, in your new normal. You can change plans whenever, wherever, and as many times as the need is called for. Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in how your world used to look and be. “Used to” is no different from could have or should have. Our world is in constant motion: therefore change is inevitable. If you give it your best, you just might find this new way in a new world works for the same old you.
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The whole purpose of this journey is to experience many different situations and to gain the wisdom each one of these new challenges has to offer. Learning from these lessons can and often will be frustrating, as well as exhausting, and at times downright scary. Do it anyway. In my humble experience, the rewards outweigh the risks. Never underestimate the value of living this life. It is a priceless gift, and exceeds all our expectations.
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I’m not a big fan of the word “worry”. It basically seems like a waste of time to me. I propose changing the word “worry” to “regret”. Don't (worry) regret the past:it has already come and gone and there’s absolutely no way of changing it. Learn a lesson and move on. Use all that wasted energy into not (worrying) and ultimately regretting mistakes you could make in the future. It hasn’t happened yet, so lay the cards life hands you face up! Play it smart, weigh the risks and rewards, and as much as possible eliminate any regrets.
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Don't keep your love bottled up. Pop the cork and celebrate the feeling. Let it overflow and drench anyone lucky enough to be in its presence. There is no need to be stingy, as there’s no such thing as using it all up! Use words to tell people, but I have found showing them with kind deeds and caring thoughts is much more affective. Remember, love is an emotion, pure feeling; it’s not always logical, but it is the greatest gift of all. Share to your hearts content! The more you give, the more you get!
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Here’s the truth when it comes to the truth. It can be very tricky. There will be people in your life that love you for telling them the truth. And then there will be people who even though they asked for it, will hate you for the exact same reason. Now do you see what I was talking about? Learn to safely navigate thru all the commotion right makes. Doing so proficiently is harder than it sounds. Right will fight to the bitter end, whereas truth knows it already won the war, even if you were the last one to get the memo. And that, my faithful reader, is the truth!
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Priorities are as varied as the people making them. For the sake of this post, let’s break them in three groups. Leaders: always in charge, and having an agenda. Follower: no “I” in that team. Loners: often confused with leaders, but nothing could be further from the truth. They have no desire to ever lead or follow. As you can see the variety of personalities is in fact the spice of life,so having different priorities is totally understandable. My advice: adopt Switzerland’s philosophy and remain neutral.
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Is there something on your mind? Your first clue should be when people start asking, “are you OK, is something wrong?” A telltale sign of this ailment is a queasy feeling in the pit of your stomach. A spoon full of sugar won’t cure this ailment. And trying to ignore those signs doesn’t work either (trust me, I tried.) The best way to deal with this situation is to stay in touch with your feelings by walking and talking it out!
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Mind your P’s and Q’s. This “P” stands for patience, personal preference, and being present. Remaining patient with some adults is more exhausting than with some children. Not knowing what you want is the problem. No one has all the answers, but sometimes showing up is just what the doctor ordered.The “Q” stands for question. Use your voice: ask as many of them as you need in order to make sense of the world you're living in. There is no such thing as a dumb question; unfortunately, I can’t say the same for those not brave enough to a pursue getting the answer.
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